Mid-life..Wake up call !!!

Mid-life crisis ,at the age of 40, is faced by many of us. We start getting a feeling of restlessness that something is missing in our lives.

Time and again we ask ourselves .... What is the aim of my life? What am I really good at? What is it that I really want for myself? What is the purpose of my work? What next ? These are n number of questions which sooner or later, we all seek answers to them.

Earlier , these were the questions once or twice in lifetime. Either when they were about to start their career or when they resolved to break from what their family expected from them.

In today's scenario, fundamental questions of identity and purpose are no longer a once or twice-in-a-lifetime occurrence. Many of us face them at different stages of our lives. We would realize that it is not only when we are struggling, but also, when we are succeeding.

There is a reason behind that. The better we do, the broader the range of opportunities we have. We no longer just get to move up, we get to move wider. With the fast changing trendz and technologies, we are exposed to great many people, their great minds, different styles of living, various ways of working etc. We tend to get attracted ,we try to opt for work that grants us more than sustenance and recognition. Work that allows us to fulfil our passions, express ourselves and serve a larger cause.

But, the mid-life crisis is no longer a bad news. It is an opportunity to look for new avenues, new opportunities,new ideas and create a completely new life which you actually start enjoying. This is because when this crisis strikes , there are still a good many quality years left. In the case of women, they are natural creators and wonderful multi-taskers. Its just the emotional attachment which doesn't allow them to think for themselves. This would be the right time when they have almost done with their duties and responsibilities and are free to live their lives. In case of men also, some are not satisfied with what they are doing. They start their career just to earn their bread and butter without going in for what they actually love doing. Having done that, this is the time when they can choose what they like. So long as they are clear what they want, it is never too late to salvage a dream. Simple mantra for all can be........

• Don't get bogged down by the number 40. Just think I am still young to start anything at 20.
• Leave your EGO. Accept to learn from someone younger than you.
• Don't stick to comfort zone. Fight to get out of it.
• Accept that you might need to start from scratch, so be ready to sacrifice some pleasures.
• Always remember that satisfaction and happiness are greater than pain.

and of course Keep Smiling :)

Better way of Parenting...

Parenting is a tough art to be learnt. It is not something which is learnt first and then brought into practice. Daily you learn something new, you experience something new .But definitely parenting is an art which helps children grow up as better individuals. Research psychologists have studied and concluded that there are different styles of parenting.

The Authoritarian : As the word indicates, in this type of practice, the parents follow a strict set of rules which their children have to follow.The parents feel that what they say is right and children need not argue on that.It is felt that in such cases when children reach their teens, they start arguing with their parents and ask for freedom to do certain things.Parents do not change and so their house becomes a war zone. As a result of this, children lack curiosity and tend to go in depression.

The Permissive : In this style of parenting, parents are less demanding and more responsive.Parents involve a lot with their children which is a good aspect but at the same time they don't teach them the right behaviour at the right place.They ignore their kids' mistakes and blame others or surroundings instead.Rules are not imposed on them and they are given less responsibilities.The good part is that the children tend to become more creative. However, they may be immature,impulsive and may not be in the habit of listening and understanding others. 

The Authoritative : This is basically a mix of the above two.Parents set clear limits and expectations and simultaneously they remain warm and accepting with them. Kids learn how to behave in front of others and also they have the freedom to try different things on their own.Parents do not force their wishes on them. Such children have better interpersonal relationships. Moreover they are taught to appreciate others also.

Parenting is a very important aspect of everyone's life.So no harm in learning the right way so as to help one's children become good human beings.

Keep smiling :)